It’s scary stepping into uncharted territory in our lives. Our bodies, our minds, and our souls want to reject everything that is foreign to us. How can you change when you are your own worst enemy?
And how do you make it stick? How do you stay changed? For some of us, it’s easy when something excites you or even scares you into doing better. Into changing. But then a week later, the hype dies and we are back to our old selves. Unchanged and waiting for next year.
I have definitely been there. I struggled for a long time with staying changed in my life until one year I lost pretty much everything and was forced to change. Through much trial and error combined with research, I found what works. I am the happiest I have ever been and have been mentoring others into finding the same for themselves. This is what I want to do for you today, I’m going to let you in on a few methods I have taken in order to create long lasting change.
Once you adopt these methods, I guarantee you can finally put a stop to whatever bad habits you have been trying to break in your life. We will call it the MARS Method. Motivation. Affirmations. Relationships.
Motivation is like medication. Take a dose (or 2, or 3, or 15) of something that motivates you EVERY morning to start every day of your life off right. We have to motivate ourselves. Keep that fire of inspiration aflame via motivational videos, podcasts, conversations, books, articles, etc. Do whatever you need to do to stay in a bubble of positive influences. The hardest part about change is staying motivated. Stagnancy is a sickness and motivation is the cure. Most people try to rely on what got them started to keep them motivated. No! You have to actively find more motivation every day. See
Bonus: Find a mentor. A mentor is someone who has already done what you are trying to do and can guide you along the way. (See BRAIN FOOD section below.)
What are affirmations? Affirmations are self-empowering statements that are present tense, positive, personal, and most importantly SPECIFIC. They need to be repeated and seen frequently. This is something I had never heard of until I was maybe 25 and let me tell you...IT WORKS.
The best way I have found to do it is to grab a deck of index cards and write one affirmation per card (I am confident, I am fit, I have an abundance of opportunity, I enjoy eating healthy, etc.) Read them every morning and as you go through each one you need to envision it to be true. Envision how it feels. What it looks like. How it would make a difference. Experience it. The more you envision your ideal future self, the more realistic it becomes to you and your doubts begin to subside.
I promise you that every day you and your life will become more and more like what you have written on those cards.
Have you ever heard of an "accountability partner"?
Find a friend or family member that you feel comfortable expressing your goals to and have them hold you accountable and vice versa. Also, choose how often you will check in on each other throughout the week. Some people speak to their accountability partner every night. It is totally up to you two.
Here’s something a little unconventional you may want to try. Tell your worst enemy your goal. Yes. I'm serious. Heres why: No one will hold you more accountable than a hater! Nothing will make you work harder in the gym than knowing there is someone out there doesn't want you to look and feel your best. Makes sense now, huh!?
Bonus: Shed the friends that don't support your vision. That bubble of positivity is crucial.
Here are a few tools I have used to keep me inspired and motivated to change and stay changed.
Video: Les Brown - Armed And Dangerous https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x4oUKPnYQS4
Video: Project Life Mastery - Morning Routine https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OgRGJBpTOeU
Book: "The School Of Greatness" by Lewis Howes
Podcast: "The School of Greatness" by Lewis Howes
Happy New Year. I hope this year, you become your best you, and stay your best you. Try this out and let me know how it works out for you. You can text me anytime at: 1-818-351-7947